A Woman Who Fears The Lord, She Shall Be Praised

The identity of King Lemuel is not certain but the proverb below is attributed to his mother. Some believe that Lemuel is another name for Solomon, which means the mother is Bathsheba. The first part is like advice from the king mother to his son. It was warning against succumbing to women, which we know Solomon had a weakness in. It also warns against wine as that may impair the king's judgement in making just decision. We know Solomon was quite serious in being a just king, but these could also apply to other kings.

The rest of the proverb describes the virtuous woman who is also the ideal wife. Here are some of her qualities:
- she is virtuous and trustworthy
- she is hard working and organises to provide for her household including her servants
- she cares for the poor and needy
- she takes cares of the household to the degree that her husband can perform his job without worrying about the household
- she is strong, honourable, wise and kind
- her husband and children praises her
- she is a woman who fears God

This can be the qualities to look for in a wife. In this context, it seems like the king mother is advising his son on the qualities of a wife who is fit to be queen. Again, this could apply to various kings, but Solomon may be in need the most out of this advise given his weakness with women.





Proverbs 31
The Words of King Lemuel’s Mother

1 The words of King Lemuel, the utterance which his mother taught him:

2 What, my son?
And what, son of my womb?
And what, son of my vows?

3 Do not give your strength to women,
Nor your ways to that which destroys kings.

4 It is not for kings, O Lemuel,
It is not for kings to drink wine,
Nor for princes intoxicating drink;

5 Lest they drink and forget the law,
And pervert the justice of all the afflicted.

6 Give strong drink to him who is perishing,
And wine to those who are bitter of heart.

7 Let him drink and forget his poverty,
And remember his misery no more.

8 Open your mouth for the speechless,
In the cause of all who are appointed to die.[a]

9 Open your mouth, judge righteously,
And plead the cause of the poor and needy.

The Virtuous Wife

10 Who[b] can find a virtuous[c] wife?
For her worth is far above rubies.

11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her;
So he will have no lack of gain.

12 She does him good and not evil
All the days of her life.

13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.

14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.

15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.

16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.

17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.

18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.

19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.

20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.

21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.

22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.

23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.

24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.

25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.

26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.

27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.

28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:

29 “Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”

30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.

31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.