Showing posts with label forgiving. Show all posts
Showing posts with label forgiving. Show all posts

Friday, June 28, 2013

Be angry, and do not sin”:[f] do not let the sun go down on your wrath, nor give place to the devil

Paul calls for the unity of believers because we all belong to one God. Then he outlines the five gifts of Christ which are apostles, prophets, evangelists, pastors and teachers. The reasons for this gifts is for the edification of the church so that all believers can be united by the love of Christ and also for spiritual maturity.

So Paul calls for the believers to abandon their former ways because everyone in Christ is a new man. The old self which included futile thinking, darkened thoughts, living separated from God, uncleanliness, greediness and so on, should have no part in the new man. The truth as revealed by Messiah would enable us to be renewed in our minds and so to "put on" our new selves.

Finally Paul gives a list on how we should treat each other as we live together. There was emphasis on not to sin or be angry at one another. Instead be gentle and forgiving. The key of which is forgiving each other as Messiah has forgiven us.



Ephesians 4
Walk in Unity

1 I, therefore, the prisoner of the Lord, beseech you to walk worthy of the calling with which you were called, 2 with all lowliness and gentleness, with longsuffering, bearing with one another in love, 3 endeavoring to keep the unity of the Spirit in the bond of peace. 4 There is one body and one Spirit, just as you were called in one hope of your calling; 5 one Lord, one faith, one baptism; 6 one God and Father of all, who is above all, and through all, and in you[a] all.

Spiritual Gifts

7 But to each one of us grace was given according to the measure of Christ’s gift. 8 Therefore He says:

“When He ascended on high,
He led captivity captive,
And gave gifts to men.”[b]
9 (Now this, “He ascended”—what does it mean but that He also first[c] descended into the lower parts of the earth? 10 He who descended is also the One who ascended far above all the heavens, that He might fill all things.)

11 And He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, 12 for the equipping of the saints for the work of ministry, for the edifying of the body of Christ, 13 till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Christ; 14 that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, 15 but, speaking the truth in love, may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Christ— 16 from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love.

The New Man

17 This I say, therefore, and testify in the Lord, that you should no longer walk as the rest of[d] the Gentiles walk, in the futility of their mind, 18 having their understanding darkened, being alienated from the life of God, because of the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness of their heart; 19 who, being past feeling, have given themselves over to lewdness, to work all uncleanness with greediness.

20 But you have not so learned Christ, 21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus: 22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind, 24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.

Do Not Grieve the Spirit

25 Therefore, putting away lying, “Let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor,”[e] for we are members of one another. 26 “Be angry, and do not sin”:[f] do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil. 28 Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. 29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice. 32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Friday, May 4, 2012

What is Unforgiveness?


Author: Unknown
Instead of the usual bible study passage, this post brings to you a special topic - Forgiveness.
Essentially it explores what unforgiveness and forgiveness is. We can then compare this as a checklist for our own situation.

Results of Unforgiveness

A Challenged Tolerance to Stress

Unforgiveness will eventually affect us physically as it reduces our physical tolerance to stress. The body leaks headaches, digestive problems, aches, increased incidence of infection are some of the results.

Decreased Tolerance to Stress

Stress from previous events accumulates. When these are unresolved, it is like adding each event to a bucket. Eventually when a current issue arises, it causes the bucket to overflow. We are surprised at our reaction and wonder why an event that we felt we could or should handle has become overwhelming.

Inability or Unwillingness to Trust Others

Unforgiveness can cause us to become self-protective or unable to experience true intimacy with others. Intimacy demands levels of trust.

Self-inflicted Re-injury

Reliving the situation without resolution deepens the wound because all we are doing is nursing and rehearsing the offence.

Bitterness

Unforgiveness can develop into a root of bitterness in our lives. We harm not only ourselves, but the poison of unforgiveness seeps into other relationships; it flavours every aspect of our life. It gives the enemy legal grounds to exercise control over our lives and the lives of others.

Understanding What Forgiveness is Not


1.It is not simply forgetting.
Forgiveness means being able to focus on present and future events without intrusive thoughts from past events. Forgiveness is a problem when the behavior continues. We need grace and love beyond our own resources-to be able to overcome this challenge.
2. It is often not a one-off event, it is a lifestyle.
It means continually walking in grace. We need to remind ourselves that we need to forgive others as God has forgiven us
3. It is not based on feeling. It is an act of obedience.
I forgive because the Lord commands me to. Act first, as this exercises the will. Emotions will follow.
4.It is not earned nor demands that the other person change before we forgive.
“We forgive you when...." is not the language of forgiveness.
5. It is not pretending.
It does not-mean placing others or ourselves in physical or moral danger.
6. It does not mean the other person was or is right
Nor does it mean that they did not do something that was hurtful. Forgiveness does not mean to surrender the truth.
7. Forgiveness is not like wiping a computer file.
It does not mean the pain is instantly removed. You may still experience some emotional pain. But the intensity of it will be lessened.
8. It does not mean the other person controls you.
9. It does not mean that personal boundaries are surrendered.

What Forgiveness Is

1. Forgiveness means you are no longer attributing blame but are willing to try to understand the dynamics of events.
2. Jesus found a reason to forgive: "Father forgive them, for they don't know what they are doing." We need to be willing to reach out through the offence to demonstrate love.
3. Forgiveness is when love accepts - deliberately the hurts and abrasion of life and drops all the charges against the other person. We recognize that life is not always fair and we lay aside the right or need to seek revenge. This does not exclude criminal charges, which may be necessary in some situations.
4. Forgiveness means giving up defending yourself. No constant explaining or revisiting of the issues.
5. Forgiveness means you no longer see the offender as indebted to you. They will not or cannot repay you for your loss nor are they in greater debt to you because you have forgiven.
6. Forgiveness exercises God's strength to love and receive the other person without any assurance of complete restitution. We cannot control the other person's reactions or behavior, but we can take responsibility for our own. Forgiveness may not mean reconciliation or restitution, but rather closure to the events.
7. Forgiveness is freely given. The greatest example of forgiveness is the Cross of Jesus Christ.
8. Forgiveness is releasing the other person from our judgments.
9. Forgiveness needs to include breaking the ungodly tie between me and the other person.



Have I Forgiven?

The answers to the following questions will give you some idea of where you are on the journey to forgiveness. Remember, this is a journey and forgiveness involves a process, these questions are only indicators of where you are on your journey and should not be viewed as 'right or 'wrong' answers.
1 Have I stopped secretly hoping they will get what they deserve?
2. Have I stopped talking about them to others?
3. Have I stopped replaying my revenge?
4. Have I stopped frequently thinking about them and what they did?
5. Am I glad when something good happens to them?
6. Am I more open and trusting toward others?
7. Am I still angry, depressed or bitter?
8. Have I stopped blaming them for the outcome of my life?
9. Do I feel sorry when something bad happens to them?
10. Am I more at peace and comfortable with my feelings?

Wednesday, December 28, 2011

Because You, LORD, Have Helped Me and Comforted Me

The psalmist calls on the LORD to hear him, preserve him, be merciful to him, knowing that God is good and forgiving. He praises God that there is none like Him, and all nations would one day come and worship and glorify Him. The psalmist shows his genuine desire for God by requesting God to teach him God's ways so that he can walk in Truth.

The psalmist describes his challenges including people wishing to harm him. But he continues to call on God, depending on God's character of compassion, gracious, longsuffering, mercy and truth. He trusts that God will strengthen him and comfort him.


Psalm 86
A Prayer of David.


 1 Bow down Your ear, O LORD, hear me;
         For I am poor and needy.
 2 Preserve my life, for I am holy;
         You are my God;
         Save Your servant who trusts in You!
 3 Be merciful to me, O Lord,
         For I cry to You all day long.
 4 Rejoice the soul of Your servant,
         For to You, O Lord, I lift up my soul.
 5 For You, Lord, are good, and ready to forgive,
         And abundant in mercy to all those who call upon You.
        
 6 Give ear, O LORD, to my prayer;
         And attend to the voice of my supplications.
 7 In the day of my trouble I will call upon You,
         For You will answer me.
        
 8 Among the gods there is none like You, O Lord;
         Nor are there any works like Your works.
 9 All nations whom You have made
         Shall come and worship before You, O Lord,
         And shall glorify Your name.
 10 For You are great, and do wondrous things;
         You alone are God.
        
 11 Teach me Your way, O LORD;
         I will walk in Your truth;
         Unite my heart to fear Your name.
 12 I will praise You, O Lord my God, with all my heart,
         And I will glorify Your name forevermore.
 13 For great is Your mercy toward me,
         And You have delivered my soul from the depths of Sheol.
        
 14 O God, the proud have risen against me,
         And a mob of violent men have sought my life,
         And have not set You before them.
 15 But You, O Lord, are a God full of compassion, and gracious,
         Longsuffering and abundant in mercy and truth.
        
 16 Oh, turn to me, and have mercy on me!
         Give Your strength to Your servant,
         And save the son of Your maidservant.
 17 Show me a sign for good,
         That those who hate me may see it and be ashamed,
         Because You, LORD, have helped me and comforted me.

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